A lot of times that’s anxiety or fear, lack of confidence, or not wanting to be embarrassed by looking like you don’t know what you’re doing.
Maybe get her and her friend, or just her, a private lesson with a female instructor?
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I thought about it but when I do research to do that I feel like I’ll e cheating myself by spending money on something she doesn’t want when I could be spending that on my training classes and courses
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@ZOOMBATT I’d think of it as an investment in a possible shooting partner. It may, or may not, “take”, or it might not take right away but it might stimulate her interest later (sometimes we need to sit with things for a while). The cost of a single lesson isn’t so much to invest and it could change her attitude and interest for life.
Having a spouse that shoots with you is a pretty cool thing, and shes already got the expensive part, her own gun 
I’d definitely look for a female instructor though, it can make a HUGE difference in how that initial training goes and whether a woman goes away excited and confident or intimidated and uncomfortable.
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My wife has progressed from Does not like and turn them in to Is not OK with firearms but is OK with me having firearms to Is OK but doesn’t shoot.
After being with me for 32 years and then my son becoming a Marine, she has made great strides. I do not believe she will ever “like” firearms because she had a sibling commit suicide with one but she has become much more tolerant. If i am not going to be around, she now always makes sure that the safe is working and the spare is ready for use should something bad happen.
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Been carrying daily for 43 years. Just a part of life to her. She always picks a seat allowing me to watch doors and have my back to a wall preferably near an exit. Just part of being a cop’s wife. Poor woman.
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My cats don’t seem to mind. 
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My dog and cat don’t like me dry firing or racking the slide.
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When we’re shooting, our cats head for the porch, and the dogs head for the barn.
Peggy the Piggy (no really, she’s our neighbor’s pig, she just likes our farm better than her own) does her best businesslike pig-shuffle down to the sheep pen when the firearms come out.
We’ve got one bottle-fed lamb who doesn’t seem to care if we’re shooting and will hang about our legs if we don’t shoo him off.
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Hey Zee, it sounds like you have found a way to practice while being distracted!
Nice job (hehehe)
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I was oiling up my Mom’s Ruger Standard after putting it back together and my cat decided he wanted to play with the barrel. 
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Now that’s funny!
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This Cali girl was the first person to ever take her Texan hubby shooting, and bought him his first gun, a Heritage Rough Rider with .22lr and .22wmr cylinders. While it may always be more my thing than his, it has become something he enjoys, like Archery and Blacksmithing, after I introduced him to it. We have a great gun club we belong to so I think that helps too.
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My wife carries a 357 meg. And she is good at it.
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My wife died a few months ago, but she really wished we could have taken the CWP course together. I actually took mine later on since my responsibilities didn’t allow much time for it then.
She could out shoot our young men with a rifle.
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Very sorry to hear that @Bugleboy.
My hubby says there’s nothing to compare with a good woman who really does have your 6. 
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Um, what exactly do you mean…oh never mind.
A little advice to you all. Love isn’t something you can fall into or out of. It’s not a rock you trip over.
Warning! Preacher talking!
Feelings come, but they don’t dictate. You are attracted to someone. You find you want to be with this person forever. You make a commitment…a covenant relationship. Each day and sometimes several times a day, you make a decision to keep that covenant, your commitment, your promise, your word. You may not feel those feelings you felt before, but you are a promise keeper. If you do not let up but keep pressing on, the feelings will eventually come. You are not governed by your feelings. You are governed by your covenant.
Remember, For God so loved the world (each and every one of us) that He gave His only Son so that whosoever believes on Him shall have eternal life.
We are not always lovely, but God never gives up on us.
No matter how awful we may act, He reached toward us as the prodigal son, welcoming us with open arms when we teturn to Him
God does not have love. God IS love. Without God there is no love. When you show love, you are showing a glimpse of God. God can not fall out of love with you. He has made His commitment, and He will not leave or forsake you. No matter how you feel, God has not left you alone. He’s waiting for you. Now. You may be waiting for your husband or wife. Your job is to be there. You can’t do their part. You do yours…and don’t quit.
If someone gets something from this long post, it would be worth getting myself banned for it. I’m doing my job.
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I agree. I also like a line from the movie Shenandoah
“I liked Jenny’s mother a whole lot. One day, I realized I loved her.”
Sorry for the loss of you wife.
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I like that handle 45IPAC
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Thank you for your kind words folks.
I’ll make a post one day about how my wife and I met.
It’s really something to tell. Very unusual.
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Condolences @Bugleboy. I agree. Love is a choice, not a feeling. My wife and I just celebrated our 30th anniversary last month. I choose to love her every single day. We worked together for 8 years and I made the choice to love her even then! Granted, there are days where I don’t like her and she doesn’t like me, but those are few and far between. We have had our ups and downs but we promised for better or for worse and til death do we part.
And someday we can share stories on how we met.
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