I’ve kept quiet on this one for a while… Being back in the dating pool, it’s a totally different ballgame as a woman. Men don’t always react positively when I carry.
So if someone I know sets me up, I make sure they mention that I’m an instructor or that I carry. I’ve done the dating site thing - YUCK - but in the current world it’s one of the only other ways to meet people besides a friend of a friend. Be honest about who you are without beating someone over the head with it. A good picture of you at the range mixed in with other pictures can open the conversation without it being a surprise or in any way confrontational.
It’s an important conversation, but not one that has to be too stressed over. Just like everything else, people have hugely varying opinions.
It’s been 3 weeks of me and her talking and she’s very interested in meeting up with me and getting to know me. I think she’s just nervous to meet me for the first time and get a gun in the mix or what not, until she feels more comfortable with me.
This may or may not work out. But she’s very interested.
I won’t share some of the comments because they’re not very PG. Some are intimidated by the fact I carry. Some think I’m trying to be macho or “compensate”… Some are intrigued but then get upset when I take them shooting and outshoot them.
Dawn, I am 63, my wife is aaa-aaa 29, again… married 33 years (wow! that sounds kinda bad) and I think she is sexy with that firearm on her side… also when she is driving my Ram pick up…she is an empowered woman and that can scare some men.
I’ve gotta say, I was exceptionally proud of my wife’s performance when we qualified for our CCW. She definitely out-shot me. Her grouping was so good, they couldn’t actually count her individual hits. Her instructor told her “You want to keep the bad guys away? Tape that [qualification test] target to your front door.”
She seem to be looking for an excuse but was too scared to tell you up front. When i date someone i never tell them i’m carrying right away. The topic never comes up until we become intimate and they happen to discover i’m carrying. I have never had anyone freak out on me when they discover that i’m carrying. If they are getting that close to you to find out you have a gun they already made their mind up about you and feel safe being close to you. It wasn’t the gun carrying that was the issue. Sounds like you need to slow down and maybe try not texting or calling her so much. Let her contact you. if you haven’t already blew it. Calling and texting her is a sign that you are way too needy. If some chance she calls or text you just set up the next date and get off the phone. Also stop talking about guns so much keep the conversation pleasant. Save that stuff when you and her are an item.
Just take her to the gun range for a first date, If she shows up with better gear than you have, she is a keeper but, she might think you do not meet up to her expectations. Wear a Uncle Ted for President T-shirt too! I actually have a 10 rules to date her. 1. Does she like to go fishing? 2. Can she cook? 3. Does she like to hunt? 4. Does she like to eat venison? 5. Does she like riding horses? 6. Is she willing to get dirty( muddy) 7. Does she like to go camping? 8.Does she like Uncle Ted? 9. Is she smart? 10. Is she good looking? Not in any specific order. These requirements are set to my likes as well so that the both of us have common likes and enjoy the things we will be doing.
y… what type of reactions does that get? I can’t imagine anything other than “YES!”
