I started dating my future wife on the 4th of July, early on, I asked if she was at least 2A friendly. While she said yes, she also said she had never shot one and always wanted to try. Didn’t talk about it too much, carried on all our dates, concealed, she suspected but could never really tell.
Early on, she asked if I could not carry in her apartment (converted basement of her sisters and her family’s house) due to basic concerns about the kids. That request ended soon as she became used to me carrying.
Told her why I carry, she understood.
More and more she is comfortable around firearms, still some more work to go.
I don’t talk guns much with her, many other things to talk about.
Best not to force it… Don’t over message, say good morning and evening, ask about her day, take interest in her, slow down and go from there. If you have a range day planned, in a casual conversation, let her know and give a simple invite and leave it at that.
Not able to read all the posts but able to say I do whatever I do, which means I mostly carry. The last girl I dated didnt know I was carrying daily for nearly 4 years. By then it didnt matter.
I didn’t own a gun till 30, because I didn’t live in a free state till then. I got a carry permit and started carrying almost immediately. I was still single, and dating at the time. I never even mentioned carrying, though in my dating profile pictures, I would have one pic with a firearm. I’d often take first dates to the range with a rimfire rifle and/or pistol. A lot of them sent me the “let’s just be friends” message after the first date. One woman I dated for awhile didn’t find out until my pants dropped with a loud thud on her floor, she laughed it off.
I met my wife in a state I couldn’t carry in. We did the long distance thing, and I met her in multiple cities and countries where I couldn’t carry. She didn’t even know I owned firearms until she visited me to stay at my place for 2 weeks. During which I proposed.
After we were married awhile, she told me about how when she was still living in Japan. The culture there was very superstitious, and her coworkers had peer pressured her into seeing this romance fortune teller. They all swore their husbands were described perfectly before they had ever met them. She said after seeing the fortune teller, she dismissed it right away, thinking I’ll never meet a man she described, forget marrying one. She said the description was “long hair, muscular, multiple scars on body, carries a gun”.
I dunno why it would even be a subject of discussion with anyone you barely know. The number old folks who know I carry (Always carry and have for almost 30 yrs) I can count on the fingers of one hand. I have many many friends who have no idea-not their business and not their problem. Heck, my BIL didn’t know I carried daily until I’d been doing it for more than 10 years😏. Wouldn’t have known then if I hadn’t drawn and shot a copperhead lying on the trail we were walking down😏I
To see the perspective on the other side. After her divorce, my sister had a ton of firearms and 2a stuff on her online dating profiles. She claimed it was great for weeding out the creeps.
In fact the first guy she dated after her divorce. She was planning on swiping left until she realized he had an unfamiliar firearm in his pics. So she asked me what it was. It was a Browning m2. When she realized what it cost, and what the process to even purchase one was. She said she was suddenly interested, besides the ATF already ran a thorough background check on him.
