Emily Post was an idiot. The weapon hand needs to be kept free. My wife has walked on my left for 59 years and she knows why.
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I am old and do not have a lot of options. I do carry a walking stick as 1st line of defense. I also train at 0 distance.
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Sometimes the only de-escalation that will work are shots fired. No one was murdered because the police de-escalated.
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Get a firm and proper grip on my pepper spray and continue to my vehicle until my option to leave disappears
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I like the fact you have your self-defense tools with you. Many don’t recognize the need you do so.. But I might remind you that 50% of Attacks on women are over the purse. Will you be able to get to your tools while you’re fighting over possession of the purse? You may have both hands on the purse and to release the grip with one hand may cause the loss of the purse and your tools among other things of value.
I suggest having a male friend try taking your purse from you to see just how well you fare. Better yet have him do it by surprise if possible 
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Anytime you can carry your tools on your person you’ll be much better off., l realize, for women, it can be more problematic but work to find methods for doing so. .
Good luck and stay safe!
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I hear you and I see your point, 
my daughters mostly carry their tools in their PURSE!! 
Oh well! 
at least they carry for their protection! 
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Suggest my little experiment to them to let them see for themselves🤷🏼♂️
The majority of women I recommend on-body carry to say purse carry works just fine and I imagine it will until if they’re aggressively attacked someday.
Nothing like trying to retrieve your force multiplier while you’re being thrown around like a rag doll.
Most women I’ve had experience with held onto their bag longer than they should have, trying to retrieve their force multiplier, ended up very banged up and feeling very vulnerable. NOT ONE was able to get the item for which they were reaching.
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As far as a taser goes, I instructed my ex, who thought it was a good idea, NEVER us a tool which forces you to get within arms length to deploy. Almost surely it will be taken from you and possibly used on you.
But don’t take my word on it. Try using it on a boyfriend and see how things work out😊
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Im sharing your post with my daughter 
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Honestly, my life is more important than the items in my purse. I understand the concern about having a male friend or partner to help, but I prefer to let things be. While I don’t know the statistics about purse thefts, I know my life is worth more than what’s inside it. I won’t risk my life for those items; if someone takes my purse, they might realize it’s just filled with books and other non-significant things. 
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You’re missing my point altogether! I couldn’t care less about the items in your purse.
I’m telling people, not just women, if you carry your defensive tools in a bag/ pack of some sort, don’t expect them to be of much use to you when you’re the object of an attack. Two of the women I was referring to in an earlier comment lost their pistols when their purses were violently yanked off their shoulders. One of them told me she would have just let her purse go but didn’t want to give up her gun and she took a good beating because of it
If you’ve made the decision to carry a pistol or pepper spray , and I feel all law abiding citizens should, then find a way to carry it on your body. I promise you there is a way to get it done and it’s WAY more likely to be of use to you.
I carry pepper spray and my pistol 100% of the time when I leave my home. I may have a backpack with me 50% of the time when I leave my home but you will never find my tools in my pack. They’re always on my body. Pepper spray in my left pocket where I can retrieve it with one hand and my pistol on the right hip. If my pack is ever forcibly taken from me at least my tools don’t fall into criminal hands leaving me defenseless. But more importantly they are more readily accessible to me because they’re not stuffed into my bag
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So in other words, if you are going to carry a gun in your purse, know how to protect your purse.
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I understand what you’re saying, and it makes perfect sense. However, as a first-time gun owner, I am continually learning to become more knowledgeable. I agree that it is best to carry a gun on your body, and I’ve been exploring different options for holsters, particularly body holsters. I’m still getting familiar with the correct terminology, so I apologize if I use the wrong words.
I believe that carrying a concealed weapon reduces the risk of not having a firearm accessible when needed. It’s unfortunate what happened to those women, and I always appreciate your feedback. Thank you for consistently providing valuable information. It’s important to learn from our own mistakes as well as those of others to improve our safety. I’m grateful to be part of this community and appreciate your engagement and insights.
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Good on you for making the commitment and good luck on your search to find the “perfect” holster. I think I can speak for most people on here when I say you’re probably going to end up with a drawer full of them. The perfect holster seems to be a very elusive thing.
As you get a chance, search the Internet for weapon /CCW classes in your area. When I started my training years ago, you would see the occasional woman in class but anymore it is very common. The classes will go along way towards building your confidence and gun handling skill. As you advance in classes, you’ll learn things like shooting a flash sight picture, getting off the “X” and shooting the reset. You come to understand the Tueller principle, auditory exclusion, LPV (tunnel vision) and much more. All tools to make you a better defender. But I believe the two most important things are mastering the basics and regularly practicing what you been taught, as gun skills are perishable. Training is super important! You owe it to yourself, your family and to society to be a competent defender. Besides, as you advance in your skill level to where you moving and shooting in class, it becomes REALLY fun.
Good luck on your journey. Have fun and be safe😉
" We don’t rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training."
Archilochus
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Get a car with a stick shift. Most carjackers probably can’t drive it.
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3 on the Tree😀
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Things happen so fast,there’s no way to say,’I’d do this or that’. The thought’s good.I always went for the neck with a quick hit to ‘Adam’s Apple’ or palm of hand to the nose. Again,just do the best one can,quickly.
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As I’ve heard my retired LEO girlfriend says many times. More people need to learn the value of a closed fist throat punch 
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