I’m always trying to be better at situational awareness. My wife does not carry, because she is not yet confident enough. But she has taken situational awareness very seriously. And she is good.
Recently we were at an outdoor restaurant. She noticed two men standing in an odd place and pointed them out to me as suspicious. I replied that I had cleared them while getting drinks but would keep an eye on them. 4 eyes are better than 2
My wife, stepson and myself all carry and pretty much act as a team everywhere we go. We’ve been training together for eight years.
My wife has really improved her situational awareness. Any place we go to eat she asks where I want to sit. 
Has learned to walk on my right side, I’m left handed. Locks car and house doors all the time. Pays attention walking through parking lots. Not a very good shot but good second set of eyes and backup.
team work is key train train for every situation you can. the wife and I have been doing this for 30+years we both carry and both have service dogs/attack trained dogs as was said many eyes are better then just two.
Good for you.
Brings to mind the phrase “force multiplier”, as in protective force shield. Adding layers of security, especially if you’re a party of only one or a smaller party.
We went to visit one of our elders in a retirement community. We were getting ready to leave.
I was still with our other family near the facility lobby, saying goodbye, but watching our brother who was parked in his car - out in front. He was getting ready to go, but still had his gear in “park” position.
He was alone in his vehicle, a fairly new ride and recently washed.
All of a sudden, we noticed a stranger open up his rear passenger door, about to get in, then closed his door.
It then became obvious to me, the stranger thought it was their Uber ride.
I called my bro. “I luv you, but you gotta lock your doors man”.
So I applaud all of you who take the time to do that simple act, lock your doors, it takes literally - one second, and itself is invaluable and a force multiplier.
Peace be with you.
Several years ago, I was out sailing with a woman and several men. The woman noticed one of the shrouds (mast supports on the sides of the boat) had come loose. Completely loose, not just a little bit. The mast on that side was now being supported by one shroud (most sailboats carry at least two shrouds on each side), and if we had tacked the boat, the mast may have gone over the side.
Now, we were all sitting in the cockpit and not one of us men noticed this. We were all experienced sailors and were astounded we had completely missed it. She explained why this was (her answer would infuriate the feminist crazies). She said that women are ‘nest protectors’, so they often observe things closer to the ‘nest’ which might threaten their young. Men, on the other hand, are ‘distance lookouts’, scanning the horizon for incoming threats to the family unit.
Makes sense John1505. Double great insight on her part. Interesting how a little diversity in one’s camp adds to the wisdom and can stave off disaster. Thousands of years of human nature, some of our natural survival and own wild animal instincts still kick in.
Good for her!!!
The ONE freaking time I lost focus while leaving a restaurant late at night it was my wife who pushed me back into my seat and punched her 1911 past my face in the direction of a vagrant that was yanking my door open.
A vigilant wife is a precious resource!!! Don’t squander it. She obviously has the instincts so now get her the confidence by handing her to a qualified trainer. That’s what I did (and NO, husbands should never train their own wife’s 
), and it paid off in swiftly changing her from someone like your’s, afraid to carry, to a confident capable team member in a VERY short period of time.
That’s my plan. She was scheduled to go to a women’s class at Sig Academy, only 25 minutes from our house. But she got sick. Now pushing her to reschedule.
She is confident enough to defend home and hearth when I’m not home. So we are getting there. In the meantime, I’m grateful for he diligence as a lookou
There are times for all of us when we forget to have our head on a swivel and having a second set of eyes is beneficial. Maybe you are at your local grocery store and you are looking for that one particular brand and flavor of your favorite ice cream and you lose focus on your surroundings. It happens. Having Your Wife there and KNOWING she has your six is a blessing.
Then there are times when she places herself in the middle of the fray to let someone know they do not, under any circumstance, want to mess with the old guy.
We had a person of dubious character pull out in front of us in a crowded parking lot and stops, blocking our path. With traffic behind, I could not back up, so I waited, less than patiently. The driver sees my less that chipper disposition and waves out me, tells me I am #1. So I wave back, You’re #1. He gets out of his car and advances on our. I make a move to get out and I feel her hand on my arm and she growls “DON’T YOU DARE GET OUT OF THIS CAR” then SHE gets out.
She proceeded to tell him in no uncertain term she just saved his life because if I had gotten out of the car he would die. Dude’s pregnant girlfriend gets out of their car and advances on my Wife. My Wife tells her to get her skinny a**ed baby daddy back in the car before their unborn baby grows up an orphan.
With no physical contact from either side of the argument, she convinced them they were better off not confronting me. He waved and told me I was #1 again, then sped off, ran a red light and was immediately pulled over by local PD. Instant Karma. By the time we made it to the same intersection, they were both in cuffs.
I tell people My Wife is the only thing I’m scared of and that day is a prime example. She would say I am not scared of her, but I should be.
My wife and I argue over ‘who watches the door’ when in a restaurant…