Definitely not just you.
This is a little long but stay with me here…
I think people often feel a sense of noble action in defending the underdog. Stepping to the defense of victims is kind of an American trait.
The problem comes in when you start identifying bad actors as victims. Were they abused as kids? They’re a victim. From an oppressed demographic? They’re victim. While that’s not wrong, you have to draw a line at some point and say “it’s sad they were a victim, but that does NOT entitle them to victimize others.”
People often judge themselves in relationship to others. Their own good acts are not valued unless they are BETTER than the good acts of others. To feel their own nobility they must do things that are more noble than the acts of others.
Combine the need to feel good about themselves compared to others with the sense of righteous nobility that comes from helping the underdog and what happens? People loose sight of the fact that those victims have morphed into villains.
Its immature, narcissistic, foolish, and illogical. But I think its what’s happening. People become enamoured of seeing themselves in a heroic light because they are standing up for the “victim” and stop seeing everything else. The fact that those “victims” are abusers fades into insignificance in relationship to how righteous and noble they feel.
That is a malignant form of narcissism and I fear it is rampant in our country.