I’m making this topic to respond to @Levi2 from the welcome thread (link: Welcome to the Community! Please Introduce Yourself - #6668 by Levi2) and to not weigh down the welcome thread, and to extend a current topic on female concealment.
So far, I have been exploring with a Sticky Holster paired with their belly band (I understand the risks and deficiencies of the soft holsters, including the extra step to reholster and the lack of good trigger protection - not sold on it, but it’s been the only option so far that truly conceals), and I also got a Kydex holster from Hawg. I got a magnetic holster from JM4 which I’ve kind of given to my husband because I’m not sure I got the right one, it’s a bit too heavy for my clothing. I just watched some additional content from PHLsters that helped me understand more the mechanics of holsters and learn about how to find my “concealment sweet spot” so there is work to do
I really think these are a decent starting point.
PHLsters videos like this one.
I’ve been impressed with how much concealment some people achieve, and this has definitely not been easy so far in most of my clothing. This weekend I might sit down and really try to find my sweet spot, and figure out what augmentation the holster needs. I think the kydex holster needs a wing and/or a wedge.
I’ve also been watching Stav at SheEquipsHerself because she does employ a lot of different concealment strategies. Being a woman, the different outfits do require some extra effort (or sacrifice). However I do not want to carry off-body. At all.
I’m definitely in the “take in all information and use my own brain to reason about it” stage, knowing and remembering that I really know nothing, and so just discerning what is good information can be challenging.
Another takeaway from all the content in the Women’s Carry space: I have seen way too many ads in the last few weeks for women’s conceal carry clothing, and most of it fails the holster requirements. And at some point, I am not paying extra to have my kydex wrapped in fancy floral prints
I can sort of understand having fun with it? But it seems way too easy to spend too much money and energy in the wrong direction, with this stuff. There needs to be money left for lots of range ammo!
Levi2 writes,
Glad you are working towards improving your skills! There’s a lot of people out there that have the mindset that having the firearm is enough. They don’t practice or develop the skill in any way. Im not saying one has to be a precision marksman, but we need to be able to constantly hit what we aim for. In the event we have to use our firearm for self defense, we are responsible for every round that leaves the barrel. Collateral damage is not an option.
I’ve also been watching some legal or strategy kinds of videos, getting my head into the space. I definitely am focused as much on skills, non-lethal self-defense, as well as physical training. I am a long time yoga practitioner, but I’m not that strong and I’ve had some chronic pain issues in the past. So I’m lifting weights multiple times a week, continuing yoga, and plan to engage in some kind of martial art or non-firearm self-defense skills as well. I’m actually also really interested in marksmanship and accuracy in general. I’m in my 40s – and just yesterday was pining about how as a kid I had an inkling towards biathlon, but just never got the opportunity. That might be a fun thing to try sometime! Hopefully it snows in NH soon.

