I went with a friend to the bar and I guess this guy has NO SITUATIONAL AWARENESS OR CONFLICT AVOIDANCE AT ALL!
I have this friend that I’ve known for maybe a year, and we usually hang out and play halo together. I talked a little about situational awareness with him, like condition yellow and condition orange, and when you’re in public and somebody you don’t know approaches you, you yell STOP GET BACK!
He always asks me who do I say it to?
And my response is somebody out on the street you don’t want to talk to.
He’s like so what about the pizza delivery driver?
No you don’t say it to him he’s the one giving you the pizza.
He’s 29 and I’m 24.
So one day we go to the bar and I’m the one drinking and he’s the designated driver, and after the night at the bar I get into the car, and I look around and I see 2 people staring at us hard core.
“Uhh Stan we got two people staring at us hardcore” this is my signal to him to get out of here.
What does he do? Gets out of the car and says “What’s up?” And the 2 individuals approach us, asking if it’s okay if they can lean up against his car and he’s saying yeah it’s cool, and they’re asking us if we’ve been drinking because they noticed we’ve been there since they’ve been there, and if we’re okay to drive.
In my mind I’m referring back to my USCCA training, two guys have been paying attention to you the whole night, and now asks if you’re okay to drive, what is he going to do if he doesn’t think we’re okay? Call the cops? Also I’m thinking at this moment, and if we say I was drinking that gives them the idea oh these 2 people are ■■■■■■ up not paying attention so 2 easy targets.
And after this incident I realized my friend thinks he should talk to anybody and everybody.
So the next day he tries talking me into going to a place where there’s different games at different tables and we could have different people join us in a game of monopoly. So I was cool on it.
We get there it’s a cafe/library for college students and tried getting me to talk to a woman in the most isolated part of the library, to get me to talk to some women he doesn’t know, I don’t know, and she was looking really worried. I didn’t talk to her, cause obviously she was studying and wanted to be left alone.
On the way home he was like “I tried getting you to talk to that one girl.”
I replied “I know.”
He goes “Well when I saw her she was smiling”
And I replied “When I saw her she wasn’t”
How would you address this with your friend? He hears and understands a little of what I say, but doesn’t apply it to anything, or knows anything about how to read a room.