This is something that I have trained for alot. The only 2 people I would use that training for is my daughter or my wife. Otherwise I am going to stay out of it and let the professionals handle it.
However, in training for that, I have had extensive talks with wife and daughter, about their need to go completely limp if taken hostage. As it would open more of a target.
I would not allow my wife or daughter to be taken from wherever this would happen at to another location. Statistics are not kind to women who have been taken from one crime scene to a secondary scene.
But I would not be willing to make that decision for someone else.
YMMV