In an attempt to keep myself as well as my family safe, I am constantly evaluating my actions and habits to make sure I am doing everything I can to be aware, not make myself a target, proactively create distance, give myself as much time to prepare for for an unavoidable situation if that would ever (hopefully never) happen. I am sure most of this great forum do the same.
As such, I have identified my single biggest area of vulnerability and am going to throw it out to the group for ways to improve.
As you may know, I have two young boys, one 4 and one 21 months old. Both are big, strong boys. The 4yo is tall and wears size 8 clothes and the 21 month old is wearing size 3T/4T to give you an idea. Love it and they are both huge daddy’s boys, and I wouldnt have it any other way. The reason that I am bringing this up is because they are the cause of my biggest vulnerability, and that is getting them in their car seats. The 4yo isnt a big deal as he is able to climb up into the truck on his own and help buckle himself in. Its the 21 month that really creates the vulnerability as he is usually not super excited to get into his car seat, so it is me standing on the running boards of the F250 trying to keep him safe and in his seat while trying to start getting him clipped in. It sounds worse than it sounds when I explain it, BUT it does create a significant vulnerability due to the focus of my attention.
Steps I take are as follows. I pay super close attention when walking to the truck. This is to look for people that may be a potential threat, and to keep the boys safe from cars backing out, traveling too fast through a parking lot, cutting across parking lanes, etc. Anyone who has been in a parking lot knows all the other potential risks other than people that might make you take notice. When the older is getting buckled in, and I buckle him in first as he is the easiest, approaching self sufficient on that, and I like knowing he is contained and safe when buckling the younger one in. I dont have to worry about him stepping out into traffic or some other unmentionable horror in the split second i take my eyes off him. I typically stand facing him with my back to the door hinge so that the truck is at my back and I have a better view of what is going on around me. Once he is in, doors close and its good. Then I have the younger one. Requires two hands to get him in and buckled. The whole time, my back is to the world, perched on the running board. The best I can do there is as possible, I glance under my arms to look for anything that might be approaching.
What else can I do?