My straight “A” high schooler did not do so well on a quiz. As a result, the overall grade fell to a “D.” My wife and I have always focused on effort and not grades. We will take a tough “C” over a soft “A” any day of the week. I began to ask questions. Some of which are listed below.
How comfortable and confident were you while taking the quiz?
Do you feel as if you second guessed yourself?
Were you allowed to use notes while taking the quiz?
Pause… let’s focus on the question number 3.
“The teacher did not assign or require a note book as part of the school supplies list.” Me…
For the record, no notes were taken.
I explained the fundamentals of learning. Mind you, I am not educator so bare with me…
- Pay attention
- Seek clarity in order to understand
- Establish a connection to something you already understand or mastered.
- Take “notes” for future reference. More importantly, you will find yourself reading the material as you write which creates memory of the understanding.
I had to explain reality. “The quiz results were not related to the school supplies list. It was related to how you studied. Your success thus far is directly based on your effort and commitment regardless of subject or activity.”
As parents, we cannot allow our children to assign blame without exhausting their actions and inactions toward a problem. We cannot allow them to carry the “it’s not my fault” torch any further.